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Be a Bawse

Last week a book I pre-ordered last July arrived. It’s called How to Be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life. It’s by a YouTube personality that goes by Superwoman, but her real name is Lilly Singh. I happen to stumble upon her videos three years ago and ever since then I’ve followed her on a majority of social media. When I heard that she was writing a book last summer I originally thought she’d be writing an autobiography & when the title of the book was released I thought it was an interesting title for an autobiography.

Last week when the book arrived I dove right in and I wasn’t expecting to be hit with such thought-provoking quotes and advice.  Thrown in between a few chapters there were segments titled Out of the Blue. On the left side Lilly wrote about a time when her depression was affecting her life with a blue background while on the right side on a vibrant yellow background was a more recent time how she flipped the way she was feeling in a more recent year. As she says in the book depression doesn’t go away. You don’t magically wake up one morning all bright and happy and think, ‘my depression is gone! It will never bother me again!’ I wish it did work that way, but she’s right. I’ve had bouts of it since 2007. Not quite as severe but I knew what was happening again and yet I couldn’t stop it. And the even scarier part was I wasn’t caring that it was happening again.


Fall of 2007 was a defining moment for me.  There are days when I’m feeling down but then I take a moment to look back at that moment and I look at how far I’ve come.  It wasn’t easy but I rose from a very low point and I dusted myself off and set out to prove my worst enemy (myself) wrong.

There were other moments in this book that made me stop and do a little self-reflection. When I finished this book I went back and jotted down the side quotes that left an impact on me personally. What I’m going to do with these notes I’m not sure yet but what I do know is I want to put them somewhere I can read them everyday. Almost like a way to start my day on a positive note and be motivated for the day.

And if you’re asking yourself if you’re a Bawse my suggestion is read the book and find out.


Self Confidence

Yesterday I mentioned that I recently made the decision to do something that will boost my self positivity and self confidence. This morning I received a phone call that set the ball in motion to do it.

What comes to your mind when I say the word boudoir? Black and white photography? Lingere? Does the word alone make you frown?

To me I find it a way for me to boost my self confidence. Not everyone will agree with me on this and that’s okay. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I respect that.

As I was looking through the photographer’s work that I’ve chosen I feel that she is able to capture sensuality in an elegant way. And if you’re thinking does that mean you’re going to be nude the entire time the answer is no. Just wearing a flannel shirt & cozy socks can be alluring. When I asked what kind of clothing would I be made to wear the response is what won me over. I can bring what makes me feel sexy. She asked do you have a flannel shirt? A jean jacket? Sometimes the most common everyday clothing items can be transformed into something seductive. After talking to Jodi this morning I feel so much more confident about this afternoon I found the quote that is the featured image at the top. I’m accepting me for all of me, including my scars that I absolutely despise, and I will revel in it.